How can I help my child be resilient?

By: Dr Justin CoulsonToday’s parents are working overtime to help pave the way for their kids. The New York Times has dubbed them ‘snowplow’ or ‘lawn mower parents’ – ‘machines chugging ahead, clearing any obstacles in their...

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Navigating Your Teen’s Quest For Independence

By: Dr Justin CoulsonDear Dr Justin,My daughter started high school and already there are parties and outings organised where no parents are allowed. She’s only 12 and I think too young to go unsupervised. Am I being unfair?The teen years are a glorious time for our kids. It is a time of...

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Helping Our Kids Feel Good By Doing Good

By: Dr Justin CoulsonWe all want our kids to feel good. Ice cream. Cake. Beach days. Playdates. These are all great for bringing joy. But typically, these good feelings don’t last. Once the ice cream is gone, or the playdate is over, our kids often lose the zest and pep they were feeling.So,...

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The Case Against Boredom

By: Dr Justin CoulsonRecently there has been a groundswell of popular opinion extolling the value of letting our kids be bored. A recent New York Times article argued, ‘Boredom teaches us that life isn’t a parade of amusements. More important, it spawns creativity and...

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What To Do When Your Child Lashes Out

By: Dr Justin CoulsonDear Dr Justin,My 9-year-old son lashes out at his younger siblings when they bother him and often ends up hurting them. He feels terrible afterwards, but he can’t seem to get his anger or his reactions under control. What should I do?Lashing out in anger is something...

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What to Do When Your Child Is Fearless!

By: Dr Justin CoulsonMy childhood friend Joel was fearless.When he was about six, Joel’s parents installed a balcony on the back of their pole home. For some reason, the builder couldn’t install the safety railing straight away. The fall from the balcony to the ground was at least 6...

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What To Do When Your Child Lies To You

By: Dr Justin CoulsonYou enter the kitchen. Your child looks at you like she’s hiding something. You see cake crumbs on the counter and the tips of her fingers. ‘Did you eat the chocolate cake?’Your child smiles up at you, chocolate stuck in her teeth, and innocently replies,...

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